Field guide
Anatomy of a yes: enthusiastic consent in practice
Beyond the slogan — what affirmative consent sounds like between real people.
Consent is a conversation, not a checkbox. The slogan version — "yes means yes" — is true and useless in equal measure, because real negotiation happens in tone, timing, and follow-up questions.
A good yes has room for a no inside it.Workshop maxim
Start before the moment: the best consent conversations happen with clothes on and stakes low. Ask what someone is curious about, not just what they permit.
Enthusiasm is the standard because it is observable. Hesitation, stillness, and silence are answers too — treat them as a no until words say otherwise.